THE NEXT LEVEL

okay so one of my good good friends just told me some
interesting things about her "new" relationship...
well this is how it goes...
so the boy she has been talking to for a little over a year now
finally has come to terms of wanting to settle down and make her
his girlfriend...
now many of you may ask why did i put new in quotations marks
well they have already had the relationship as if they were GF and BF...
now i know many may say they were already in a relationship but the reality of the
situations is that without the titles you really do not know what the other person
expects of you or you really do not know that person likes and dislikes until the titles
are added.

Now what I advised her to do was to have a conversation letting each other know what they
will expect of one another. Let each other know based of passed relationships or even things they have seen in others ppl relationships what bothers you and could potentially
lead to a break up.
It may seem a little juvenile or even a little precocious but it will help out relationships far more than you think.
Me and my hubby did it and it really helped out the relationship.
we know what makes each other tick. (some may say its not a good idea to tell your mate what
makes you tick but i think that is crap....I digress). By knowing this
you have the ability to either use this info for good or bad. you can use this to hurt your
partner or to build a solid foundation.

Now with that said I am far from saying that your relationship will be perfect
I mean you will have times were stuff that you use to do at the beginning of the relationship
and your mate acted like it was cute but really hated it...that will all come out in an argument.
you have to work on these things. each person must be welling to change some things about themselves and the ones around them that may be hurting their relationship (that is another day of blogging....lol).

To end on a good note tonight.
just know that you need to have be ready fror a drastic change when you except that GF
or BF title from your siginifacant other. It may seem like they are nagging
or even just starting an argument but YOU HAVE TO LISTEN TO MAKE IT WORK.
One last thing ppl be ready to come to terms with those things you
dont see as a big deal and something that may hurt your mate in a
way you will not understand at times but youwill eventually get....

G'night bloggers

Im just being.....SIMPLY_ME